Thank you. Do you know what website it was? And what would happen if you have a deed poll stating you as Mr but a passport as Miss :/ Or does it not matter as long as I'm not travelling abroad or needing my passport for anything
The only problem you would have with your passport having the wrong title is if you need to use it with someone as a way of proving your identity and address kind of thing because usually for these kinds of circumstances you are asked for photographic ID plus a utility bill kind of thing. So if you ever have to do that then you might need to find two things that match exactly.. But in all honesty, there has been times where I’ve been in this situation because people never spell my last name properly.. But there was only one time where that was an issue for me.
I’m not at home atm but if you could wait until late tonight I could let you know the name of the website I used.
In the UK you can get a free deed poll to change your name but you need a doctors letter to change your tittle (i.e. Miss to Mr.). I can't get that at this current moment in time so could I change my name to a male name but leave my title for now?
That’s not true. I changed both my name and title at the same time with my deed poll and had no doctors letter. I used a website that issues deed polls for mines. The only thing you need a letter for is to change your gender on your passport or driving licence.
hiya, not too sure whether you're gonna find these quite creepy or not, but i made a edit of one of your photos, hope you dont mind? and also, would you like me to send it to you?
Sure! You can submit things here
do you like house music by any chance or is disco just your favourite?
If there were no disco then there would be no house so YA!
Who is your celebrity crush?
Just curious, how old are you? 😊
hey there :] when are you going to make a Q&A vid for youtube?
When I get some questions :]
Omg you know about Horse Meat Disco :o , you're awesome. ♡ you have to be the most amazing person i have come across in a long time.
Lol yeah of course I love them being the disco queen that I am! I keep missing them when they come up to Glasgow. They were here again just last week but I was too poor to go :[
the djskillz video is the ultimate cool. wanna hang out and listen to music? :)
Haha thanks.. I’d love that!
How long did it take for you to start automatically or rather naturally gravitate toward male products in stores without feeling like it was deliberate action to deviate from female stuff? it sounds silly, but I mean stuff like deoderant, or clothing, etc
This is a really interesting question actually!
I was already wearing mostly guys clothes and had quite a masculine hair cut before coming out.
One thing that felt like a big deal to me was the switching from a purse to a wallet. I used to always try and buy a purse that was as masculine, discreet and wallet-looking as possible but for some reason I thought it was too bold of a statement to just get a wallet. I think its because my mum has always said that you should never buy your own, that its bad luck, and I never thought that my mum would be okay with getting me one. But a short while before I came out I did eventually buy my own and just tried to hide it from her for as long as possible.
The switch from perfume to aftershave was another one that took a long time because I never bought it for myself, it was always a birthday or xmas gift from family. I was also terrified of getting some myself, putting it on, and then for someone to mention and draw attention to it. I thought that would have made me feel like a weirdo or something. …..Now that I really think about it, I did continue wearing perfume after coming out because I was attached to that smell, and I thought that anything overtly masculine smelling just wouldn’t seem right on me because I was extremely insecure about my masculinity. After a few months of coming out, it was my birthday and my ex got me the masculine variation of one that I liked and from then on I stopped wearing perfume.
All of these kinds of things for me are typically gifts from someone else so it took a year of me being out before people started to switch to the guy’s stuff for me, but when they did it was the first birthday/xmas in a LONG time where I felt truly grateful and it was the best feeling.
Also with any male product that I’ve bought, the first time has always been the most jarring and awkward and I’d worry about what the person at the till would think of me etc. but after doing it a couple of times it feels totally normal. Perhaps your ability to pass will play a part in that.
(I bought multi vitamins last month and they were advertised towards men - bearing in mind that at this point I’m almost two years on T - and I still felt awkward about doing it lol)
:') just wanted to say that you're really inspiring and your eyes are amazing aha. i also admire your confidence a lot. Btw do you have insta? And have you ever visited london? If not, you should. x
Aw thanks :] I’ve never really thought of myself as having much confidence tbh so you saying that helps lol
I’m just ‘xymrn’ on instagram, and yeah I visited London a couple of years ago and loved it. I didn’t get to see too much of it and I’m dying to go back to dance to Horse Meat Disco!